I KISSED A GIRL...AM I GAY?

Dear DL,

I was very sure of my sexuality until last week. There were some things that took place to make me question who I am and how do I handle these new feelings. I met up with some friends of mines. I always suspected that one of my friends was a lesbian. She acts more like a guy than most guys I know. Not to mention, she's on our high school basketball team. Although she never admitted she's into girls, I've never seen her date any guys since I've known her. We were at a party, and I got really drunk. I wasn't feeling good so she walked outside with me to get some fresh air. We were gazing up at stars and the next thing I know her tongue is in my mouth. I kissed a girl and I liked it. The next day I avoided her. We haven't spoken since. I feel like I lost one of my best friends but yet a part of me wants to explore further than a kiss and perhaps further than friendship. Am I a lesbian? Should I go further to see if I am? And how do I go about being friends again with the girl I kissed and am now ignoring?

Thank you for writing in. High school can be difficult, and discovering who you are is a challenge. I belive our experiences shape our present and define our futures. Anything is possible in 2017. Whether your straight, bi, gay or just curious, it's your life. Shape it as you must. One kiss doesn't define you as being a lesbian, and avoiding your friend who gave you your first girl on girl kiss is a form of punishment for both you and her. Keep in mind, alcohol also had a role to play. Ask yourself this, If you were not drunk would you have kissed her? If your still curious after your experience then you need to talk to your friend. Maybe she has uncharted feelings for you. The point is, you will never know until you find out. It will be a tragedy if you allowed your friendship to end over being uncertian of your feelings. Communication is the key to any form of success. Whatever you decide, do not feel ashamed for it. Walk tall and hold your head high with whatever you do.

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