HOW TO WIN OVER HIS PARENTS

Dear DL,

My boyfriend and I are waiting to do the dirty, but we still keep are relationship steamy by sometimes sexting. The day after one of our steamiest conversations, his super conservative religious parents decided to check his phone. Instead of having a talk with their son, they drove to my house and had a long chat with my parents, showing them screenshots and nude photos from our texts. His parents now think I'm a whore and will not let him see me anymore. It's not fair because he's my first boyfriend and I'm still a virgin. I'm really in love with him and can't see myself without him in my life. My parents are disappointed in me, especially my dad, but they know I'm not going around being a slut. They didn't appreciate how badly my boyfriends parents put me down. Don't get me wrong, my mom and dad were grateful to know what's going on, but it was how my boyfriends parents handled it and how they spoke of me. My parents hate my boyfriends parents, and are not found of my boyfriend, since they now know I was talking about having sex with him, even though we didn't actually do it. My boyfriend isn't even trying to save our relationship. I'm glad he respects his parents, but I feel like he doesn't value our love. How can I fix this?

Thanks for writing in. Your boyfriends parents did what most parenst would do. However, they should have talked to their son first. The sexting was done equally and they shouldn't have pointed the finger just at you, when their son was doing the same thing. I think it's great that your boyfriend respects his mom and dad, but he needs to man-up and better communicate with them. If he loves you, he needs to tell them. In the mean time hold your head high and bite your pride. It's time to kiss up to the parents and get your man back in your life. Parents can be very influential in a young man's life, that's why it's important that they like and get along with you. Here are some tips on how to win them over:

1. APOLOGIZE

It's not the end of the world, it's just sexting...right? When your dealing with parents, to them, it is the end of the world. Keep in mind your boyfriend was once their little baby. Most parents have a hard time letting go, especially mom's with their sons. Your job is to make them feel like their gaining a daughter, not loosing a son. Apologize to them for what they saw on his phone. Your boyfriend needs to apologize to your parents too. And the apology needs to be done face to face, not over the phone and not through text. Put your halo on and be charming. Make sure you convince them, you will never write/send any inappropriate text to their son again.

2. BRING A GIFT

Parent's want to feel respected for their position. Buy them something they would use or need. Don't opt for something fancy. You don't want it to come across like a bribe.

3. DRESS APPROPRIATELY

You mentioned your boyfriends parent's are religious. Reserve any sexy clothing you have for dates. Go for something conservative when your around his family. Keep your goodies covered.

4. GO PREPARED

The aim is to win over his parents and get them to like you. Get a sense of their culture. Also, you may want to make an attempt to go to church with them, since you know their religious.

5. LET THEM DO THE TALKING

Follow their cues and let them do the talking when you go to apologize. Wait for the appropriate opportunity, allowing them to express their feelings. Don't be a know-it-all in front of his parents. Understand that they know your boyfriend better than you. Remember, they raised him. Parenst can be fiercely protective. Even if you're truly, madly and deeply in love, they'll feel like they've got years on you.

6. REFRAIN FROM PDA

Sit next to your guy, but avoid holding hands. Don't even think about cuddling. Don't flash your affection in their face. Be graceful.

On a final note, it's really hard to get in good with the parent's once they already dislike you. However, it's not impossible. When it comes to your guy's family you have to do a lot of ass-kissing. Remember, if you want a future with him, his parents will always be a part of his life. Don't make him choose. His parent's were there long before you. Your boyfriend also needs to understand that he has to respect you, just like he respects his parents. If his mom and dad are bashing your name he needs to stand up for you. Always think before you snap! Once a text message or photo is out there, it's out there. If you take a photo or text something you don't want anyone else to see, don't do it. You never know what could happen.

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