CATCHING YOUR BFF GF CHEAT...

Dear DL,

I saw my homeboy's chic making out with another dude. I wanna tell him but his girl is a good friend of mines to. I don't wanna get in the middle of it, but at the same time I know it's wrong for her to be doing my boy like that. How do I clean up this mess without becoming the villan of the story?

Thanks for writing in. Infidelity has been on the rise in the last two decades, with women taking the lead in their sexual freedom. Finding out your best friend's partner is cheating not only affects their relationship, but your friendship as well since you never know how your best friend is going to take it. What if you tell your friend that his girl is cheating and the two of them end up working things out? They may never want you third wheeling into their lives. Don't get me wrong, telling your friend is the right thing to do but you have to be prepared for what happens next. This is a difficult position for you to be in, and I applaud you for not jumping head first, and seeking out a healthy solution. Remember it's not your mess to clean, but it is your responsibility to be a true friend. Whatever or however you choose to go about this, it's likely to have consequences and you could become the villan even when your trying to be the hero. Telling your friend may be the 'right' thing to do but is it the 'good' thing to do? Ask yourself this, if you were in your friends situation, would you want him to tell you? You should also make sure you have all the facts straight. How much firm evidence do you really have? Although you saw her with your own two eyes kissing another guy, is that enough to make your best friend belive you? What if she denies it? Even if you tell your best friend and he belives you, there is still a chance he may try to work it out with his girl. The both of them may see you as a reminder of the affair and give you the cold shoulder. What if you don't tell him and he finds out from someone else? He will be very angry that you knew about it and did not tell hm first. There really is no right answer. Just do what you would want someone to do for you. I a firm beliver in KARMA. What goes around comes back around.

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