FAKING IT...THE BIG 'O'

Dear DL,

About a year ago I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. We have great chemistry and the passion is there but I have yet to have an orgasim. I have friends that talk about it and feel cheated that i still don't know what it is. He's a great lover, and I feel bad faking it all the time. Is there something wrong with me?

Thanks for writing in. Belive it or not, most women do not experience an orgasim while men seem to get them all the time. Majority of the time, a woman will lay there, shaking and moaning in what sounds like pure excitement because they know that's what men want to hear. As common as it may be, women who struggle to climax tend to keep quiet about it. Most women still cannot orgasm until their in their late 20's or 30's. The good news is, the body can be taught how to have the big 'O.' One thing that many woman don't realize is that an orgasim is their responsibility, not their partner's. Don't leave it up to your partner to make you have an orgasim, like it will somehow magically happen when you jump into bed together. You have to become an expert of your own body first, by learning what touches feel right, and how to bring yourself to have the big 'O.' Take some you-time exploring your body. Everyone has differnet prefences when it comes to sex. The trick is, finding what's yours on your own. If you are unable to achieve an orgasm on your own then see a gynecologist and speak to them about it. Sometimes a low testosterone level could be the cause. Majority of the time, the inability to never orgasm can reflect on just not understanding your own anatomy, so don't jump to the conclusion that there's something wrong with you.

On a final note, make sure you are having safe sex. It seems the issue is never addressed enough, and at times, couples get careless when they have been in a commited relationship for so long. Sexually transmitted diseases and an unwanted pregnancy is Real Life. I truly believe that protection needs to work both ways. Women should take Birth Contol and men need to use Condoms. Neither one of these plans are full proof. However, both condoms and birth control work better together. It's better to be safe than sorry.

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