MR. RIGHT or MR. RIGHT NOW

Dear DL,

I've been in a casual relationship for about three months now. It's more of a hook up everytime we see each other, and have never went on an actual date. Last Saturday I spotted him at the mall, hugged up on another girl. I didn't make an issue of it because we've never established a title, but I feel hurt and betrayed since I'm not talking to any other guys. I really like him, and don't want to loose what we have. It's been three months and I feel like maybe he could be the one. How do I talk to him about it?

Thank you for writing in. Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now? If you're looking for the one, don't waste your time on a temporary person, when you could be spending your energy finding the right person. How can you tell Mr. Right from Mr. Right Now? Mr. Right Now only fills a void. Sometimes you find yourself spending time with someone you know doesn't have long-term relationship potential just to not feel lonely. It's natural to want a companion that fills the romantic relationship void. It's so important to be honest with yourself about the whole situation. If your just having sex and have never even been on a date, then your allowing him to treat you as a booty call. Your worth so much more than being treated like an object. You need to establish boundaries, clarity and a title for what the two of you are or are becoming. In a way, anyone you are dating is a Right Now. Why? When you're dating someone, no matter how promising the relationship may seem, you can't possibly know 100% if they're going to be a part of your future unless that person gives you a title and clarity to where you're headed in your relationship. sometimes our emotions get the best of us, which messes with our ability to confuse Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now. If he's Mr. Right...

1. He's resposible and someone you could picture having kids with in the future.

2. He deals with your mood swings and loves you unconditionally.

3. He puts your needs before his own and makes you his number one priority.

4. He spoils you like a Queen.

5. He goes out of his way to make you feel beautiful and special.

6. He's not embarrassed to buy you pads at the store when your monthly friend visits.

7. Your family approves of him.

8. He's a good listener.

9. He's a hard worker and has a stable job.

10. He's faithful and honest

On a final note, God created women to be a man's companion, not booty call or side piece. If your man cannot establish a title for your relationship, doesn't bother to take you on dates and is messing with other girls he's not the one. Don't let any man treat you like crap. Casual sex is not healthy both physically and emotionally. After three months, your relationship should be just that, a relationship. Don't let him use you for his benefit. Sometimes you need to admit that what you think might be Mr. Right, is just Mr. Right Now.

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