BOOTY CALL OR BAE?

Dear DL,

I've been dating this guy for a couple of months now, and I'm starting to fall for him. The sex is amazing. He is really nice and seems to always say the right thing. Although it feels right when I'm with him, there's not a lot of interaction outside the bedroom. He always makes excuses to why he doesn't introduce me to his family or friends and has a problem with PDA. The biggest issue I have with him is his quick departure after we are intimate. I want more from him. Do I tell him how I feel? Im scared it will only push him away.

Thanks for writing in. There are so many red flags going up when your relationship with a cute guy doesn't leave the bedroom. Chances are if he's not introducing you to people that are close to him, and not treating you like the queen that you are in public, he may just be using you for what you can give him...the Booty. You need to put up your wall and realize your booty-call status before he ends your casual sex incounter and introduces you to someone else he considers to be his real bae. To save you from the pain of later on finding out you're not his number one, listen to these simple booty-call warnings:

1. You've never been introduced to his family or friends.

If you matter to him, he'll want to show you off. He should be proud that you're his girlfriend.

2. The bedroom is the only place he take's you to.

You'll either be hooking up, or he'll be thinking of every way to start hooking up.

3. He's never introduces you to his female friends.

This is definitely more important than meeting his guy friends. For his male friends, he's bringing you around to brag about how hot you are. For his female friends, it would mean he's proud of his lady, and values you on his arm.

4. He never gives you any type of random affection.

Any sort of affection (PDA), is a simple gesture to show he cares. If the only lip action he wants is in between the sheets or leading you to the sheets, beware.

5. No time to cuddle.

After you hook up, it's normal to want a little relaxing skin-to-skin affection. After the satisfaction you gave him, there should be a celebration of cuddles. When you're just his booty call, he won't want anything that's not rated R.

6. You never go out on dates.

Why would he take you out on a date when he knows he can get what he wants before having to invest any of his money or time? If he know's you're up for giving him some booty, he's not going to worry about taking you out to eat, when he can get the whole buffet for free.

7. He never talks about your relationship status or the future.

This may be because he doesn't see you in his long-term future. A booty call never turns out to be a wifey.

8. He has countless excuses on why he doesn't want a relationship.

From "I really don't like labels," to "I'm just to busy with work." He's full of crap! Don't let him off so easy. Persue the subject until you get the truth.

9. He doesn't send you simple text to see how your day is going.

There is no meaningful text messages, or heartfelt I miss you's. You'll even probably be the one who texts him first, and he won't answer until he wants your booty. His many delayed responses will also then be followed with another BS excuse.

10. He only contacts you at odd hours.

He likes to text after midnight, so when your phone starts to buzz during those late night hours, it will most likely be him. He just wants one thing from you and will begin to sweet talk his way into your house, and then your bed.

On a final note, don't let any man treat you like an object. Don't give up your goodie bag so quickly before you give him the opporyunity to get to know the real you, and if he's truly interested in getting to know you, then he needs to give you clarity on what he's looking for. If it's a Wham Bham Thank You Mam, then you need to "Run," away, don't "Walk." A woman was not created to be a man's side piece or just a booty call. Women were created to be a man's companion. Do not let any man degrade you by using you just for sex. Stand tall and know your worth.

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